This year has been interesting to say the least.
I finished my bachelor’s degree and started law school. I met awesome new people, and got closer to others that I should have a long time ago. I found out more about myself and what I’m passionate about. I learned how to actually be organized and get shit done when it needs to be.
I also realized I overthink A LOT, prolong the inevitable, get anxious about literally everything, and don’t know what the hell I’m doing with my life.
All in all, I think it’s still important to think of the good – the lessons that a not-so-great year has taught you. Here’s what it taught me, I hope 2017 Antoinette listens.
- Listen to Vonnegut: “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.” Spending too much time and effort thinking about negative things is exhausting and not worth it. It’s okay to be sad, but don’t let it take over.
- Take advantage of living in one of the coolest cities in the world. It pisses you off to no end but at the end of the day, you know it’s pretty great.
- Spending money on experiences is worth it. Basically go to more concerts.
- Don’t buy something unless you absolutely love it, because you’ve emptied out your closet like 10 times this year.
- Hang out with your friends more, they make you happy when not much else does.
- Taking a night off from studying for the sake of your own sanity is not the end of the world.
- But like, do your readings on time, so you won’t want to kill yourself later.
- Wake up a little earlier, you feel a lot better when you do.
- If everyone is giving you the same advice, you should probably listen to them.
- Distance yourself from people who bring you down. This doesn’t mean you have to cut them out of your life, but people who are a detriment to your happiness should not dictate your emotions. If you’re anything like me, you tend to let other people’s moods permeate through yours, and it can be incredible draining to be around people who are constantly, though maybe not even purposely, bringing you down.
- Tell people when they’re upsetting you.
- More importantly, tell people when they’re making you in any way even remotely happy. It’s good to hear, and expressing your gratitude is good for your own well-being too.
- You regret it when you don’t go out and do something more than when you do.
- Working out makes you feel wonderful, why the fuck aren’t you doing it more?
- Say yes. It’s scary to jump into new things but it’s led to amazing opportunities in the past and you should keep that streak going.
- It’s okay to be vulnerable – your friends are there for a reason, and you shouldn’t have to bottle everything up for fear you’ll annoy them. If they do get annoyed, find new ones.
Here’s to 2017, may it be infinitely better than the last.